Have you heard of this #RockingMotherhood tag? It’s not an excuse for us moms (and dads too!) to toot our own horn, more it’s a way for us to get the right perspective for how we’re doing at parenthood. Because far too often, we are looking at other parents and thinking that they are wonderful and perfect and have it all and all together. But nobody does. Didn’t you know you can’t trust everything the internet says? Well this #RockingMotherhood tag is a way for us to acknowledge what we do do for our child(ren).
Thank you to Mainy at MyRealFairy.com for nominating me to carry the #RockingMotherhood tag/torch!
So without furtho ado, here are the ways I feel like I am #RockingMotherhood:
- I put up with a decent amount of physical pain in order to do what I felt was best for Doll. Specifically, I had an unmedicated delivery (and I sure felt it when the nurse jumped on my stomach during that final push!) and I also struggled through some pretty terrible pain in the first 6 weeks or so of breastfeeding. And yeah, it was all totally worth it!
- I do my best to keep Doll off screens when possible. Of course, she knows what they are and she knows that my tablet is especially fun (but why mine?? She won’t even turn Hubby’s phone on!) but when she wants to play with it, I try and find something that we can do together, like read a book or stack blocks, or something! (I do admit that I allow her to watch videos when I’m desperate to get something done and she’s desperate to not let me get the thing done.) Because me using my tablet will make her want to play with it, I save up most everything I have to do until she’s in bed. Then I’m at it for at least 4hrs, trying to get it all done.
- I encourage her to do things for herself. Doll is shaping up to be a very responsible and clean little lady and I make sure that every little effort is appreciated and rewarded. She loves to put diapers away or in the diaper pail (she doesn’t quite get the difference yet between the clean spot and the dirty one!), she puts clothes and un-paper towel in the laundry all of her own volition, if she has a spill she grabs a cloth and wipes it herself (saying quiet little “uh-oh”s the whole time!), she puts garbage in the garbage (and sometimes not-garbage in the garbage) and recycling (and sometimes not recycling) in the recycling bin, I could go on and on. She sees what I do every day and she does her absolute best to do it to, without being asked.
- I gave up my blanket so that she could sleep with it because she just likes it so much (and heck, I’m pregnant – it’s not like I need the insulation just now!).
- No matter how badly I really do not want to wake her up, I always change her diaper before I go to bed because I know it’s wet and I want her to be comfortable. Half the time she doesn’t wake but sleeps through. The other half I end up holding her for 15 minutes while she has some milk and remembers that she’s tired.
- Even though I’m fat and slow and really really really just want to sit down I always play chase with her before changing her diaper (she throws a clean diaper at me to let me know she needs a change and then she runs!) and I always play “tiger” with her (an oven mitt that is a tiger head and likes to eat little girl toes and fingers). Over and over.
- I respect her need for quiet time. When she decides it’s time to just sit on the couch sipping her milk and plucking a blanket (she ends up with a ball of fuzz every time), I help her get comfortable with a nice “pluckable” blanket, make sure her milk is full and cold, and she enjoys her quiet time without interruption. I like to sit with her when I can but sometimes it’s a great opportunity to get something done on my tablet without her noticing.
- I keep Doll in cloth diapers because I know it’s better for her (and also a couple other reasons) even though it means that for diapers alone, I have to make the trek up and down from the laundry room 4 times every day. Sometimes while carrying her and sometimes patiently waiting while she navigates the stairs herself (stopping to throw toys up and down as they appear). I also make my own laundry soap, since cloth diapers are so picky and I can’t afford to be buying special soap!
- Every mom can claim this one but it’s on my list anyway: I gave up any and all bathroom privacy. I also gave up having a shower to myself. I gave up even closing the bathroom door because if I do, she’s just going to come along and heave it wide open.
- I gave up my most favourite past-time: reading. Of course, Doll and I read books together. But we’re not even at Franklin-level yet, never mind Harry Potter or Agatha Christie. I know that I may one day read my old friends once again, but I truly don’t know when.
The #RockingMotherhood tag rules:
- Thank the blogger that tagged you and link to their blog.
- List 10 things you believe make you a good mother (this is just a guideline. It can be more or less than 10.)
- Tag 3 – 5 bloggers to join in the #RockingMotherhood Tag.
- Grab the #RockingMotherhgood badge below and add it to your post or sidebar.
Thanks to Patricia at White Camellias for starting this awesome trend!